Patient Illustrations
The application of these principles to a divergent group of patients will be described, each to illustrate a different aspect of the therapeutic intervention and its effect on the patient.
Patient Number 1
This patient illustrates the use of a rapidly induced benevolent transference for suggestion in a patient limited in his psychological capacity. Treatment led to the disappearance of the symptom during the first session.
The patient was a 68-year-old businessman, father to six children, committed to Orthodox Judaism. He had been referred by his neurologist, who after an extensive neurological examination revealed no organic pathology for the patient’s rigidity of gait, concluded that “the sticky leg syndrome” was the manifestation of a conversion disorder. The impairment had been present for three or four weeks.
3 The patient was good-humored and hypervoluble. An atmosphere of good fellowship pervaded the encounter. Important in his life history was his father’s denigration of him for mediocre school performance related to dyslexia. The patient felt his father had clearly favored his older brother.
The family of origin had been concerned about intemperate expressions of anger when he was thwarted or when he experienced disrespect. The symptom had developed when he discovered that there was a plan to prevent him entering the synagogue by the rabbi because of a conflict related to his paranoid lawyer son-in-law. The patient’s symptoms appeared when he discovered he had been prevented from entering his synagogue by a plan fomented by his “paranoid” antagonistic, lawyer son-in-law, and the rabbi leading the congregation. The patient’s family acquiesced since they had been concerned that he would lose control of his anger in a confrontation and to avoid conflict had spirited him away to Florida.
The following interchange occurred during the first session. As the patients spoke of the incident in which he had been prevented from entering the synagogue, he said with great anger. “They cannot stop me from walking into the synagogue. When I was a child, my parents, in complaining of my obstinacy, said I could walk through a wall if I wanted to.” At this point I stopped him and stated affirmatively. “Did you hear what you just said?” I repeated, “They can not stop me from walking into the synagogue.” I continued with insistence, “You’ve been unable to walk because you are afraid to walk into the synagogue. You’re afraid of the anger you feel. Your confidence has been undermined. You have been warned by your family that you would do harm if you confronted the Rabbi. Now that you know what this symptom is about, you will be able to get up, and walk normally. The patient arose and walked about the office without difficulty and without his cane.
When the patient arrived for the second session, his head was sagging. I interpreted this as a reflection of the shame he had experienced in being excluded from the synagogue and he straightened his head. The symptom disappeared. He then revealed that he was the proud skipper of a sailing vessel in New York harbor and that even after the leg symptom developed he had been able to walk normally when on the deck of his boat. I pointed out that this was a situation where he was master. When he invited me to join him for a cruise, I tactfully refused. His disappointment was apparent, and he expressed the thought that I was not confident enough in him as a skipper to accompany him. “This is certainly not true! I have absolute confidence in you as a skipper”, I replied. He expressed his gratitude for my confidence in him, a confidence that he had never experienced with his father. The patient was seen for six sessions at weekly intervals with no further symptoms.
This patient, limited in his self-examining capacity, relinquished his conversion symptoms in the context of a therapeutic relationship in which I became a transference object, an idealized figure akin to a rabbi or teacher, a good father—people highly valued in his world. As such he was affected by my strongly affirmative statements that had the power of suggestion (
Bibring, 1964). My responses were authentic, and I believe that my understanding had validity as the source of his symptoms, though they were explanatory and not transforming insights for the patient.
Patient Number 2
This patient illustrates the power of the establishment of presence in the first session with relief of distressing symptoms and the separate impact of interpretation and insight as it develops in the second and third sessions in a patient gifted with capacity for self reflection.
The second patient was a 54-year-old married woman, the mother of two children, now confronted with the imminent death of her husband after eight years of treatment for leukemia. She was extremely anxious and upset and had an adjustment disorder with anxiety. The treatment consisted of three weekly sessions with and eight-month follow up after the husband’s death.
4She was an intelligent, articulate woman, highly expressive, whose affect shifted from tears of frustration and sadness to laughter. She was not significantly depressed but was extremely distressed about her experience with a dying husband.
In the first session she revealed her distress at the uncertainty of the situation and the difficulty in dealing with a husband who was denying his imminent death. It was apparent that she found herself in a situation she had never before experienced and felt that she no longer had control over her life. In this session I consistently echoed my understanding of the various aspects of her experience and the uncertainty she confronted on a daily basis.
She arrived for the second session enthusiastically stating that she felt so much better after our previous meeting “For the first time I have some one to talk to. I have been speaking to friends but it has not helped. Now I can cry and even go to pieces. There is someone here for me”. She responded affirmatively to my comment that she seemed to be a woman who had always been in control of her life, a control that had now escaped her and caused great distress She laughingly affirmed this characterization of herself. When asked what thoughts and memories of her past came to mind as she considered this need to control her world, she reflected on and spoke of her mother who had been passive, dependent, a woman who “seemed unable to balance her checkbook”. When I wondered whether it was important for her to be different from her mother, she responded affirmatively. “Because she was that way I wanted to be different” As we pursued this theme, it became apparent that her concern about control crystallized around the feeling that she could not control health. “Had there had been illnesses in the family?” I asked. Gradually, what emerged was the patient’s experience with a mother who had a long history of medical problems—tuberculosis before the patient was born, repeated bouts of pneumonia, a hysterectomy during the patient’s adolescence, and later, shock treatment for depression. I responded with a smile and a simple “hmm,” and she laughed, recognizing how upset she had been by her mother’s illnesses, frailty, and vulnerability. Gradually it began to dawn on her, with increasing emotional intensity, that because her mother was fragile, it had been important for her to be different from the mother. Her current situation, with her husband as a primary focus of attention, so much resembled her mother’s situation, and this disturbed her. “Thank you so much. I never would have thought of that!”
In the third session she enthusiastically commented on how profoundly she had been affected by the emotional recognition of her fear of being like the mother and the need to be different. A few days before, while waiting impatiently for a repairman, the patient had a sudden insight that she described enthusiastically. Her impatience was related to her mother’s expectation that she (the patient) had a wonderful home and that she should stay at home. This idea was so contrary to her sense of self. She continued with enthusiasm “I have been able to figure this all out all by myself. This is great! So thank you”. Her expression of gratitude reflected the sense of autonomy and control, and the fact that I had given her the tools to do this by herself, so important for a woman who needed control. The patient when on to discuss the tension she had felt before a dinner she planned with her younger daughter the week before she requested our consultation. The daughter had been bothered by the patient’s expression of distress and vulnerability. “She needed me to be strong—I had the feeling that I couldn’t fall apart. Who was there for me?” These were the precise words she had used in the second session as she discussed the relief she had felt after our first meeting. Her relationship with her mother had deteriorated, and when she realized that this would not be true with her daughter, she felt liberated. They had a wonderful time.
Given the patient’s improvement and her obvious resilience and coping ability, I suggested that we might terminate. She thought it reasonable and reassured herself that she could call me. She became tearful as she wondered how people could “handle such situations alone”. I reminded her that she had expressed her concern about being alone during our first meeting and suggested that my presence had muted her anxiety. She reflected on this and realized that since we had been meeting, she hadn’t even thought of being alone. “That’s pretty good”, she said, shaking her head up and down with a smile.
One month later the patient wrote, stating that things were going well. “As well as could be expected”. She was reassured that I was “only a phone call away”. The letter ended with the salutation “fondly”.
A follow-up eight months later, after her husband’s death, revealed that she was experiencing a normal grief response. Of particular interest was an event that had occurred during the memorial for her husband when her older daughter, with whom she had had a conflictual relationship, had spoken of the devoted care that the patient had bestowed on her husband. Everyone had commented on how wonderful the eulogy had been, yet the patient was disturbed and puzzled to find herself angry. “My daughter had stolen the show”. When encouraged to reflect on this experience, the patient remembered that she had been an only child “the apple of my parents’ eye”. When this daughter was born, she became the center of everyone’s attention. The patient was surprised to realize that displacement by this daughter had been the source of ongoing conflict with her. “It’s not so good to be in competition with your own daughter.”
This patient illustrates two separate therapeutic effects. Her description of relief after she left our first meeting (“Now I have someone to talk to”) related to my “presence”, the development of a benevolent transference. It was only as the second session continued that she recognized the power of her mother’s constraining expectations and her fear of identifying with this mother. Her reaction to termination permitted an interpretation of the dependent transference that had developed in this brief therapy. She acknowledged that she “had not given a thought to the fear of being alone since she had been seeing me. That’s pretty good isn’t it” she said with a laugh.
Patient Number 3
This patient illustrates the evocation of a benevolent transference in a patient who had sought such a figure since childhood and how the development of this transference undid long-standing traumatic symptoms.
The patient was a 65-year-old married father of one, a writer, referred because of a long history of distressing symptoms. He would awaken with extreme anxiety and would clench his arms across his breast, as if to protect himself. He would be flooded periodically with painful traumatic memories of his father’s beatings, and those memories would dominate him for hours. He had an anxiety disorder with elements of posttraumatic stress.
This man was intelligent, articulate, and spontaneous. He told his story coherently, as if pressured to spell it out. The dominant theme had to do with physical and psychological abuse by a violent father and a mother who constantly denigrated him. His story was one of a relentlessly unhappy childhood. “Important” was a theme that developed early in the consultation. A psychologist friend had asked him whether there had ever been an important adult in his childhood to whom he could turn for comfort and reassurance. The patient had always been painfully aware of the absence of such a person in his life. His world had been dominated by hostile insensitivity to his needs. A prototypic experience characterizing his deprivation was his attachment as a three-year-old to a complicated set of blocks with which he played that afforded him a sense of his own intelligence and mastery. His father had taken them away and given them to a cousin, totally indifferent to the painful loss experienced by his child. The patient’s early adult life had been dominated by an angry sense that people to whom he turned betrayed him. A psychologist at college had been indifferent to him. Teachers, doctors, all had let him down. Yet his adult life had evolved in a different way. The patient married late to a very beautiful woman, now an active professional who was caring and loving and whom he loves profoundly. A son, with whom he has an excellent relationship, was now a student at an Ivy League college and doing extremely well. His writing career has been successful but had not been a source of great pride. He now described his enthusiasm about the process of finishing a play about his own life.
An anecdotal description can not convey the subtle nuances of the relationship that evolved during our contact. He was a likable man and it was easy to respond to him. I echoed the descriptions of his experiences, acknowledged the extreme pain that he suffered. I commented on his play as an attempt to develop a coherent narrative of his life. At the end of this first session he asked if it was OK to show me a photo of himself and his wife when they were young. I commented on the beauty of his wife and the fact that they were a handsome couple.
When the patient returned the following week he attributed the diminished anxiety and the absence of traumatic memories on awakening that morning to the fact that he was coming to see me. He had finished his play. He was aware of his hopelessness and self-loathing, especially for not having confronted his parents when he remembered and re-experienced events from his traumatic past. I suggested we examine the context in which the traumatic memories reemerge. Recently, the patient recalled he had seen a film in which a boy had been rescued from a painful past by an older person. He was jealous and resented the fact that he had not had this experience. Yet, he described a wonderful married life. His only regret was that he had burdened his wife with his traumatic past. I reminded him that he had told me of happy moments as well and how he experienced relief when he spoke to his wife of these traumatic episodes. In response to his concern that he had wasted much in his life, I commented on Freud’s adage of love and work [Freud, 1930]. Certainly he had experienced love, and even satisfaction with work.
The patient returned a week later to say that his anxiety was almost absent in the morning and that he had had no painful evocations of traumatic memories. It had been enormously helpful to be able to talk so openly to an “older, compassionate person” who had listened to his story. He said he had this strange feeling that I was a friend. I reminded him that he had spoken when we met of the absence of an older person in his childhood who was responsive to him. He repeated his sense of me as a compassionate, interested person who liked him and gave him the feeling of well-being and reassurance. Very important was the sense that I respected him. Before he came for consultation he had thought that he would have to go over all the painful details of his life to have a witness to his experience. He now found that it was not necessary. He could go on by himself but was reassured that he could call me at any time. One month later I received the following letter from the patient.
Dear Dr. Viederman,
I want you to know how grateful I am for the time I spent talking to you. You are a kind and compassionate man, a man of great knowledge and wisdom, and I was lucky to have been referred to you. Though we spent only three sessions together, I benefited from them a great deal more than I can say and I take comfort in knowing you’re there, if I need to speak to you again.
My deep gratitude.
Sincerely,
One year later I received a New Years card from him again expressing his gratitude to which I responded in a note by commenting on the fact that our relationship continues even though we do not see one another.
The experience with this patient illustrates how the establishment of a benevolent transference may be useful in situations of chronic difficulty, when the therapeutic relationship fulfills a very special, long-standing need. The therapeutic experience with this patient led to a “corrective emotional experience” although not in the sense of a contrived transference stance by the analyst (
Alexander, 1960). At the age of 65 the patient had found a long-wished-for benevolent and loving parental figure that he craved. Thereby a precise and specific need was fulfilled. Symptom relief followed. This experience coincides with, but goes beyond, what
Orenstein and Orenstein (1977) called the “curative fantasy”. They suggest that a patient in crisis approaches a physician with the unconscious wish to find an omniscient and omnipotent person to protect them him/her from danger. One may also view this change from the point of view of a transference cure (
Oremland 1972), in which the patient relinquishes symptoms in order to be loved by the therapist. More pertinent in this situation was the experience of love rather than a plea for love. I speculate that the writing and the completion of his play was a symbolic event, akin to crisis that pushed the patient to seek consultation and offered the potential for a transformative experience.
Patient Number 4
This patient illustrates a situation in which a person, unable to engage in a meaningful therapy over many years, suddenly became available psychologically in the context of a changed reality that activated early vulnerability and fantasy wishes.
The patient, a 59-year-old woman had been referred 15 years earlier for treatment of anxiety generated by the discovery and treatment of a lymphoma, now successfully cured. She was an unhappy woman in an unfulfilling relationship with her religious Jewish husband, and she had two adopted children. The son was extremely aggressive and difficult to control and the daughter had difficulty at school. Unlike the situation with her son, the daughter’s attentiveness and dependence were sustaining and gave the patient her only relief. Her work as a part-time teacher in a Hebrew school was unfulfilling. Our contact had been infrequent and was often by telephone since she lived in a distant suburb.
She called one day in extreme distress. Although her son had continued to be aggressive, he was now in Israel and seemed to be doing slightly better. What distressed her was a changed relationship with her daughter. The patient had been extremely pained a year-and-a-half earlier when the daughter left to enroll in a religious school in Israel. Here she had fallen under the influence of a young teacher who encouraged her to marry early. Arrangements were made for her to marry one of the many children of a rabbi in her community. The mother was very unhappy with the marriage, which had occurred a few weeks before she called. Worse was the change in the relationship with the daughter, whose daily telephone calls had almost ceased. Furthermore, the daughter’s insistence that she live her own life with less intrusion by the mother was experienced by the patient as a painful loss. During an argument with her daughter she discovered that her children spoke about how invasive she had been in their lives. The patient was enraged, despaired, and felt terribly alone. I encouraged her to pursue thoughts about a similar experience in her past; she spoke of her father’s death when she was 13. Her father had been very aggressive, and her mother very unhappy. I commented on the similarity to her own experience with her husband. After the father’s death, the patient developed an extremely close loving and attentive relationship with her mother. The patient called her every day, just as her daughter had previously called her.
The patient reported she felt considerably better the following week. She had been struck by my comment about her experience of loss, and she remembered when she had been in chemotherapy so many years before, she had experienced much happiness in having a daughter and desperately wished she would live to see her daughter married. It was ironic that marriage had resulted in the loss of this daughter who had been central in her life. Their relationship had echoed her experience with her own mother.
When the patient called one month later for a brief telephone follow-up visit, she revealed she felt immensely better and that for the first time in her life realized how much her early life experience had affected her. She had spoken to her son of her terrible sadness during the Jewish holiday, Succoth, and revealed her distress related to her inability to conceive a child. He responded by revealing his pain at being an adopted child and not the natural son of his father, thereby being unable to carry on the Cohen tradition, a position of special respect in the synagogue. A similar revelation to her daughter about her early experience touched the daughter, who then affectionately opened her house to the patient on the Friday night Shabbat. The patient had never before revealed anything about her private world to her children. She ended the conversation by thanking me for “caring”.